Losing A Mom, Alice/Alise Edith Childs


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Alise/Alice Edith (Childs) Hains, my 3rd g-grandmother, was born 19 April 1822, married 17 March 1848 and died 8 November 1860, age 38 [gravestone reads 1859 and age 37], according to entries in a family bible [a possession of the descendants of Alise/Alice Edith’s daughter, Mary Alice (Haines) Stevens].

edith Haines birth

Haines Childs mrriage

Her parents were likely Joseph Childs (of England) and Jannet Dunn (of Dumfries, Scotland):

Joseph CHILDS Northumberland Co. Janet DUNN married: 3 Aug 1821 Carleton Parish by J Wheaton wit: George Pagan, B Goldsmith – EARLY NORTHUMBERLAND COUNTY MARRIAGES transcribed by D. Purdue from PANB Microfilm # 15488

To read more of their family, click here.

Alice/Alise Edith was buried in the churchyard of St Andrews Church, Rexton, Kent County, New Brunswick. She left a husband John Hains, son of Joseph Haines and Nancy Ann Boone and seven young children: Joseph (b. 1849), Alexander (b. 1850), George (b. 1851), (James b. 1853), Mary Alice (b. 1855).William John “John) (b. 1856, my gg-grandfather) and Edith Elizabeth “Lizzie” (b. 1858)

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Jmes and edith haines death

In 1861, Joseph and Jannet resided in the Parish of Richibucto, New Brunswick (http://tinyurl.com/lltgpj9).  Their widowed son-in-law, John Hains, resided nearby.  John’s sister Patience (Hains) Ameraux/Emroe, was residing with the family, likely caring for the motherless children and household, while John worked as a laborer (http://tinyurl.com/kzxexm2):

John Hains 37
Joseph Hains 11
Alexander Hains 10
George Hains 9
James Hains 7
Mary Hains 6 (also enumerated with her maternal grandparents as age 7)
John Hains 4
Elizabeth Hains 3
Patience Ameraux 45

A few years later, John remarried to Jane Clare with whom he had four daughters.  In a poem, one of the children (likely Joseph, Alexander or George) wrote of the marriage and the loss of his mom:

mother poem

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Daughter Mary, who was residing in Boston, returned to Richibucto and writes of visiting her mother’s grave on 15 May 1880:

I have today for the first time in my life visited dear mother’s grave alone. This dear grave has grown green with 20 years and I still sadden. There are other graves, but no loved one by her side. I am indeed lonely.  My heart yearns for dear brother Joseph who lies sick in the hospital in London. For he is my favorite brother, and with him I have everything and without him nothing. Goodbye dear sacred spot in the little churchyard. Goodbye friends and childhood spots I once loved so well. Goodbye all.

May 15 diary

Mary’s descendants have Alise/Alice Edith (Childs) Hains bible.

Inside is a lock of hair! Could this be of my 3rd-great grandmother?

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My family has no photos of Alise/Alice Edith (Childs) Hains. However, her daughter, Mary tore a photo out of a magazine and wrote: “Like my mother’s face”.

looks like alice edith haines

Sadly we do not know much more of this matriarch’s life; surviving letters paint a picture of the Hains children being a close knit, loving clan who had quite a bit of fun together, likely attributable to loving parents. Although step-mother Jane was loathed by these children (the feeling seemed to be mutual), they adored their father and surely missed and longed for their dead mother.

 

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